The C Word
What is the difference between a couch and a sofa? Hell if I know.
I moved into a new apartment last week. I currently have a chair, mattress, single towel, and four plants in my new place. I had a french press coffee thing but it broke yesterday.
However, I am fine. I only signed a six-month lease because I have commitment issues. Hell, I have three months left on a lease at another apartment that I moved out of because I got bored.
My main challenge right now is trying to figure out whether to search for a couch or sofa on Facebook Marketplace. Did you know you can buy shoes on Facebook Marketplace? And parakeets? And Bibles? And used peanut butter?
I feel like sofa refers to a piece of furniture that belongs to the Queen of England, God rest her soul. Or is she alive? I don’t keep up with Queens.
Enough of that, let’s talk about me feeling awkward.
I met a dude for coffee this morning. Dudes meeting dudes for coffee feels weird. However, making friends gets harder as I get older. So, coffee it is.
He had red hair and a man bun. We talked about love, breathwork, business, and dating.
Not dating each other, but dating in general. He is a member of the matchmaking company I am working with this week.
Do you know what is fascinating? The matchmaking business.
I am hellbent on hacking connection. Everything I do is to try and understand connection because, well, it has always been hard for me. I also think connection is the number one problem in the world that needs to be solved. Every business I am starting is designed to help people connect. Hence, working with this matchmaking business.
I should have bought Twitter.
Every idiot alive has enough sense to understand that connection is the most important thing in the world. However, most of us are really shitty at it.
People work from home now, chat digitally, and live in…well…apartments. Boxes stacked on top of each other housing only one person most of the time.
I asked the dude today what he thinks the key to connection is. He said self-love. I told him self-love is a wonky term that makes most people feel worse about themselves. Self-like is more feasible.
The women running the matchmaking office are deal makers in connection. They have been doing it for 20 years. What is the secret to connection according to them?
Care about the other person.
And…
Get rid of our paralyzingly high expectations.
Dating, making friends, and connecting with co-workers requires us to care about the other person. It requires us to be curious and not have nonsense expectations.
The word sofa comes with high expectations in my mind; I’ll search for couches.
Trey
P.S. If you have an extra couch you don’t want, I will take it. If you want to connect, reply and let’s connect.